Hey Reader

Drinking to help with social anxiety is incredibly common, but doesn't have to feel like a life sentence

By making small adjustments in your language and approach, you can stop fearing social events, strengthen your resilience and actually have a good time without drinking.
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Here are five phrases to avoid and what to say instead to help you grow in confidence and be social without worrying what other people think of you:
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❌ “This would be more fun with a drink.”
✅ “What else is fun here?”
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❌ “I need a drink.”
✅ “The stress I’m under is an opportunity to teach my brain I don’t need a drink to talk to other people.”
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❌ “I can’t handle this.”
✅ “This is what handling it looks like.”
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❌ “It’s all too much.”
✅ “How do I want to feel in this situation? How can I create that feeling right now?”
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❌ “I should make an excuse and leave early.”
✅ “It’s possible someone else here also feels disconnected.”
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While fostering positive thinking is crucial, allowing yourself to allow the difficult emotions without judging yourself is equally important. If maintaining positivity becomes overwhelming, step back and reassess.

Try these out tonight!

PS: If you want to be done with this struggle and stop using alcohol as a crutch for social anxiety, let's talk. I have a simple approach that will have you taking action and feeling empowered.

PPS: If you want to change your relationship with alcohol you don’t want to miss the Moderation Mindset Virtual Summit this weekend July 27-28th. I’m joining other experts and will be speaking on accountability - a key tool in mastering how to drink in moderation - and will help you create your very own personal accountability plan. Register here. (Replays will be available to everyone who registers.)