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90 Days Later

The wild paradox about drinking

Published 4 months ago • 1 min read

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"It's hard to get enough of something that only works for a little while."

I remember when I first heard someone say that.

My next thought? This captures why we fall into the trap of drinking too much.
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Because alcohol only works for a little while. Sooner or later the buzz wears off.
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So we drink more.
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And the more we drink, the more we develop a tolerance for it.
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Then alcohol REALLY only works for a little while because we need more of it to achieve the same effect.
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😫 For me it was about drinking to feel less socially anxious … but the next time I met a new person, did I magically feel confident? Nope. Never.
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🗓️ Perhaps a drink helps you to unwind … but when this wears off whatever’s stressing you out is still there waiting the next day, right?
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👎 Perhaps you think a drink helps to augment experiences … but what happens the next time if alcohol isn’t there? Will the party or celebration or fancy dinner feel as celebratory?
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All of a sudden these things that we enjoy become LACKING without a drink. Because when your brain thinks it needs to drink, it will keep telling you to go back for more and more even if you 'logically' know this isn't true. This is the habit trap.
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How do you overcome this? By interrupting the cycle and getting curious. Because when you're in curiosity you're open to learning:
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1️⃣Start challenging your underlying beliefs about how drinking is helping you.
2️⃣ Listen to yourself.
3️⃣ Look for patterns.
4️⃣ Ask what you could learn from this.
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The answers will be different for everyone. But the insight you gain is golden. It will reveal the path to stop you drinking so much.
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🏎️ Want the fast-track? Do you want to be done with this as the "one thing" you need to sort out? This is the work I do with my clients. I will show you what’s going on in your brain and give you specific tools to get you taking action out of the habit. Just imagine, by Christmas this challenge will be behind you. But you need to act now to make that happen. Book your free discovery call with me here.​

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90 Days Later

by Anna Charles, Stop Overdrinking Coach

My clients stop overdrinking, reclaim their lives and create freedom around alcohol. They learn a simple, doable way to live a full life without ever worrying what’s in their glass. My action-by-action teaching style provides brilliant high achievers with the tools they need to bypass the overwhelm and learn to drink in a way that they choose.

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